When we were young and it was just us or when we had our family and work and kid sports, etc., we had dishes. Dirty dishes. Often we tidied up after dinner but didn’t really do the dishes until morning so we could spend time together. Then in the morning when we got ready for work and school we prepped breakfast and lunch and we cleaned up.
Once our home was ours alone, well alone-ish..our kid was gone a lot, we cooked for 2, or went out, etc.. we kept things clean. Clean as you go, clean after the meal, eat light and simple, eat out, etc. Always empty the dishwasher in a timely manner so it was empty and could just be loaded up as we used dishes. Rinse your dishes and pop in the dishwasher and run it as needed. Hand wash a few things if they weren’t dishwasher safe or whatever. Sinks stayed clean, counters stayed clean, stove stayed clean, etc.
Since adding the MIL to our home, it’s f*@&#+% IMPOSSIBLE to keep clean. She will leave her dirty paper plate with food and paper towel on counter directly above the trash can cabinet. She leaves her dishes in the sink all the f§£§>€ time !! Sometimes full of gross food, sometimes full of water and gross food with our good silverware in it. The drain is always full of food scraps. She leaves half full dishes in her room with silverware in it. Half full bowls of cereal with milk sit while she goes to town, cups have a bottom full of thick milk from sitting around, coffee sat so long it stained a ring in the cup, half full pans of soup on the stove for days, plates that have food, silverware and napkins on them in the sink or on the counter. You get this picture. Even though we clean it all up every day, set the example, explain it to her, she either has no respect, doesn’t care, is lazy, thinks we are here to serve her or something. It’s rude. Sometimes you just want to walk into the space that you clean multiple times a day and just be able to use the counter or the sink without there being food debris or dishes left in the way.
Oh, and even if you have a sign saying the dishwasher dishes are dirty, and you’ve said a million times that dishes can go right in, if you set one thing by the sink…that’s it.. she just sets her stuff by the one thing you planned to hand wash and she leaves it. Silverware not even rinsed off. 🤦🏼♀️
It’s disrespectful. She has no job. Everyone else in this house works their ass off. Some of us have more than one job, big projects, handle a lot of other responsibilities AND.. it’s just rude. But wait, there’s more.. but I guess that’s actually another days journal topic because well, this one is all about the dishes.
Inlawtastic 