Author: Martha

Do we have any?

People who ask do we have any …. Why is it necessary to do shit like walk past the refrigerator and pantry to another room to find me to ask “ do we have any (insert food item here) . How about looking for your self?

Lying

Stop making shit up!

Anyone who is around you long enough will start to realize your full of shit,

A liar, a storyteller, a manipulator, the fake victim, a narcissist…

Lights on

Why do lights need to be left on?

Electricity isn’t free and flipping a switch up & down isn’t hard. When you leave a room turn off the light, especially if your leaving for a while, not just going right back to the space. Leaving a light on for returning home in the dark is understandable .. leaving it on during the day while not in the space is lazy.

Shoes on the table.

In what world does it make sense to put the shoes you wear on your feet on top of the table where you eat?

If you make the effort to pick them up why not put them..

By the door

In the closet

On the porch

In your bedroom

In a mud room

In the entryway

In the hallway

If you’re too lazy to put them away then just leave them on the floor!

When we were young and it was just us or when we had our family and work and kid sports, etc., we had dishes. Dirty dishes. Often we tidied up after dinner but didn’t really do the dishes until morning so we could spend time together. Then in the morning when we got ready for work and school we prepped breakfast and lunch and we cleaned up.

Once our home was ours alone, well alone-ish..our kid was gone a lot, we cooked for 2, or went out, etc.. we kept things clean. Clean as you go, clean after the meal, eat light and simple, eat out, etc. Always empty the dishwasher in a timely manner so it was empty and could just be loaded up as we used dishes. Rinse your dishes and pop in the dishwasher and run it as needed. Hand wash a few things if they weren’t dishwasher safe or whatever. Sinks stayed clean, counters stayed clean, stove stayed clean, etc.

Since adding the MIL to our home, it’s f*@&#+% IMPOSSIBLE to keep clean. She will leave her dirty paper plate with food and paper towel on counter directly above the trash can cabinet. She leaves her dishes in the sink all the f§£§>€ time !! Sometimes full of gross food, sometimes full of water and gross food with our good silverware in it. The drain is always full of food scraps. She leaves half full dishes in her room with silverware in it. Half full bowls of cereal with milk sit while she goes to town, cups have a bottom full of thick milk from sitting around, coffee sat so long it stained a ring in the cup, half full pans of soup on the stove for days, plates that have food, silverware and napkins on them in the sink or on the counter. You get this picture. Even though we clean it all up every day, set the example, explain it to her, she either has no respect, doesn’t care, is lazy, thinks we are here to serve her or something. It’s rude. Sometimes you just want to walk into the space that you clean multiple times a day and just be able to use the counter or the sink without there being food debris or dishes left in the way.

Oh, and even if you have a sign saying the dishwasher dishes are dirty, and you’ve said a million times that dishes can go right in, if you set one thing by the sink…that’s it.. she just sets her stuff by the one thing you planned to hand wash and she leaves it. Silverware not even rinsed off. 🤦🏼‍♀️

It’s disrespectful. She has no job. Everyone else in this house works their ass off. Some of us have more than one job, big projects, handle a lot of other responsibilities AND.. it’s just rude. But wait, there’s more.. but I guess that’s actually another days journal topic because well, this one is all about the dishes.

Who remembers Ms. Kravitz? She was the nosy neighbor peering through the windows watching the neighbors on the hit TV show Bewitched.

Some days, my MIL reminds me of her. Peering through the windows, talking about what she saw or if she didn’t see anyone. “There was this weird car that drove real slow by the house today”. We lived at the end of a street. They should drive slow when turning at the end of the street. “I haven’t seen neighbor R in a few days, have you seen them?”. “I sure hope they are alright”. She has neighbor R’s phone number, she is friends with neighbor R and could call them to say hello & see how they’re doing.

Standing in front of the window and watching me, or my husband and I, to see what we are doing.

Telling everyone the weather as if we can’t see it ourselves.

It’s weird. She isn’t home bound. She can walk out there, she could go places & do things but she doesn’t. Well, not unless she is with us or if someone else pays.